ROSE
"Beside all the love she give to him over the years watch him go night after night in pain not sleeping and screaming, she always there to help him".
In 2003, Richard destinies continue to bring remarkable and significant people into his life, invariably healer, equipped with esoteric knowledge. Richard’s first contact with the secret healer of Asia was in Thailand.
First and foremost is Richard’s Thai masseuse partner, Rose. Rose’s massage technique, apparently, are among of the best in the world; and Richard maintain she is one of the best masseuse he has ever experience. Over twenty years, she’s been learning many techniques of massage that are still secret in China, Thailand and other countries. She started to learn Thai massage following the prophecy of a charismatic, mountain-dwelling, hermit monk; reputedly over 100 years old and immensely wise. He correctly pronounced that she’d have 10 good years, then 10 bad ones. She married and duly had 10 good years, followed by tragedy and hardship, as her husband died and she was left to cope with two small boys. Following her husband’s death, she’d started to learn Thai massage, staying at Wat Pho Temple in Bangkok for two years. This Temple is one of the most respected Thai massage and herbal medicine school in Thailand; de fact to headquarter of the Southern style of Thai massage and repository of Thai Traditional Medicine. At that time, they learnt by massaging somebody and watching the mistake. Rose has also had a great deal valuable ongoing tuition from her masseuse aunt.
Rich first met Rose in 2003 at Patong beach. She had been teaching massage in Phuket for couple of weeks. When she first saw me, she thought I was crazy. I was in the water salt water through one nostril and expelling it out of the other; cleansing technique. She’d never seen that before. When I came out of the water she was with a couple of friends and I started to talk with them. Somehow I started teaching them yoga despite the fact that none of them could speak any English. She had to learn English before she could even talk to me!
As I look back, I am amazed that we’ve stayed together for so many years because we are so different. Rose is one of the nicest persons I’ve ever met and I’m so different to her, but she loves me. I once read love is something you can really never explain. It’s like a magnet, there’s something incredibly powerful inside both people that draws them together. Everybody told Rose I was no good but she believed in me.
We’ve been together now for 10 years. She’s been with me through the worst time of my life. She was with me when my son died. I was in a room for 10 days just crying and she took care of me although it was very hard for her. One week before I lost my son, she’d talked to him briefly. She’d never met him before, but she told me she never forgot what he’d said to her and how strong his voice was. He said to her “I want to thank you for taking care of my Dad.” When she told me that later and I saw the look on her face, I could see that it had really touched her heart.
The love she’s given me over the years I could never express in words. Love is truly a high medicine and that’s why I am so lucky. At times, I’ve gone through the most excruciating pain, but for some reason I’ve always had special people in my life who have given me so much love, which has helped a great deal in my life just to survive, but I suppose this is my life journey. Maybe I will be a better person in the next life because of all the pain I’ve had to work through in this one.
Right now, I go swimming one time a day and if I don't move or sit wrongly, I can go 4 hours or more sometimes without pain. For me, my worst times for pain are night times. I only sleep 2 hours at the most, then I get up and then, if I’m lucky, I might get another 2 hours. I don't know what it’s like to sleep all night. Unless I take pills, I can go days without sleep. It’s amazing how Rose can put up with me, many times having to listen to me scream in pain. She gives me the highest kind of medicine, which in TAO is love. I’m so lucky to have been blessed with that, but I wish I didn't have to go through all that pain, just the love. Another thing I’ve learnt is that to survive you have to laugh at yourself, if I couldn't have done that I would have gone crazy a long time ago.
I asked Rich about dying because his son Kiet had died recently and they were very close. Rich took care of him a lot while he was a child and took him to work. At that time he worked with juvenile prisoners in New Zealand. When Kiet was 13 years old his dad Rich suggested staying with him in Australia for a couple of month, if he was happy to do so. Then Kiet decided to stay with Richard from age 13 to 19 in Australia. Rich said he used to sign sick notes so Kiet could go surfing. Jokingly Rich said "when Kiet could forge his signature, There was hope for the boy." Rich believes school is important, but you must teach children love first, this is the most important teaching. I asked Rich, how he deals with the sudden death of his son now.
“The first ten days were the hardest, I suffered intense grief, but I always knew, however bad the pain was, I had to pick myself up and move on. I focused on the love we had for each other and anytime I got really down this love would lift me up. The body dies but love never dies. This is the best medicine to get over any hardship. I believe we can concentrate on love rather than grief and pain. The world needs love more than anything else. If we give back the love we receive, this will actually become a better world.”
I asked Rich “How do you deal with the daily intense pain in your body and the mental pain of losing your son?” Rich answer “I have to do three of four hours meditation, Yoga and Chi Kung every day. Sometimes I am listening to the Beach Boys, sometimes to the composer Bach. I lie on the beach and visualize being under a cleansing waterfall. When negative things come up in my life, I just visualize a smile instead of letting them take me down. For me with the body mind it is in a sense like with maintaining a machine, in each situation we have to take good care and do what helps us and the situation. I believe, we have to accept situations and people as they are."
One time my stomach was in flame so bad at it make me crazy. At times I can't do any yoga or chi Kung, I'm pain in back. Sciatica nerve is so bad because I can't do any for it because of my stomach. Rose has to message me every day. I feel so bad for her. This had been going on now for six months. I won't know for few more days what the problem is. I know its yeast or the medicine I been take it all this year. It could be ulcer. If I didn't have Rose I could make it. I would go crazy by now. At time I hear Kiet telling me ''You'll be o.k.'' I really miss him and I wait for the window to be open up all the way.
"Beside all the love she give to him over the years watch him go night after night in pain not sleeping and screaming, she always there to help him".
In 2003, Richard destinies continue to bring remarkable and significant people into his life, invariably healer, equipped with esoteric knowledge. Richard’s first contact with the secret healer of Asia was in Thailand.
First and foremost is Richard’s Thai masseuse partner, Rose. Rose’s massage technique, apparently, are among of the best in the world; and Richard maintain she is one of the best masseuse he has ever experience. Over twenty years, she’s been learning many techniques of massage that are still secret in China, Thailand and other countries. She started to learn Thai massage following the prophecy of a charismatic, mountain-dwelling, hermit monk; reputedly over 100 years old and immensely wise. He correctly pronounced that she’d have 10 good years, then 10 bad ones. She married and duly had 10 good years, followed by tragedy and hardship, as her husband died and she was left to cope with two small boys. Following her husband’s death, she’d started to learn Thai massage, staying at Wat Pho Temple in Bangkok for two years. This Temple is one of the most respected Thai massage and herbal medicine school in Thailand; de fact to headquarter of the Southern style of Thai massage and repository of Thai Traditional Medicine. At that time, they learnt by massaging somebody and watching the mistake. Rose has also had a great deal valuable ongoing tuition from her masseuse aunt.
Rich first met Rose in 2003 at Patong beach. She had been teaching massage in Phuket for couple of weeks. When she first saw me, she thought I was crazy. I was in the water salt water through one nostril and expelling it out of the other; cleansing technique. She’d never seen that before. When I came out of the water she was with a couple of friends and I started to talk with them. Somehow I started teaching them yoga despite the fact that none of them could speak any English. She had to learn English before she could even talk to me!
As I look back, I am amazed that we’ve stayed together for so many years because we are so different. Rose is one of the nicest persons I’ve ever met and I’m so different to her, but she loves me. I once read love is something you can really never explain. It’s like a magnet, there’s something incredibly powerful inside both people that draws them together. Everybody told Rose I was no good but she believed in me.
We’ve been together now for 10 years. She’s been with me through the worst time of my life. She was with me when my son died. I was in a room for 10 days just crying and she took care of me although it was very hard for her. One week before I lost my son, she’d talked to him briefly. She’d never met him before, but she told me she never forgot what he’d said to her and how strong his voice was. He said to her “I want to thank you for taking care of my Dad.” When she told me that later and I saw the look on her face, I could see that it had really touched her heart.
The love she’s given me over the years I could never express in words. Love is truly a high medicine and that’s why I am so lucky. At times, I’ve gone through the most excruciating pain, but for some reason I’ve always had special people in my life who have given me so much love, which has helped a great deal in my life just to survive, but I suppose this is my life journey. Maybe I will be a better person in the next life because of all the pain I’ve had to work through in this one.
Right now, I go swimming one time a day and if I don't move or sit wrongly, I can go 4 hours or more sometimes without pain. For me, my worst times for pain are night times. I only sleep 2 hours at the most, then I get up and then, if I’m lucky, I might get another 2 hours. I don't know what it’s like to sleep all night. Unless I take pills, I can go days without sleep. It’s amazing how Rose can put up with me, many times having to listen to me scream in pain. She gives me the highest kind of medicine, which in TAO is love. I’m so lucky to have been blessed with that, but I wish I didn't have to go through all that pain, just the love. Another thing I’ve learnt is that to survive you have to laugh at yourself, if I couldn't have done that I would have gone crazy a long time ago.
I asked Rich about dying because his son Kiet had died recently and they were very close. Rich took care of him a lot while he was a child and took him to work. At that time he worked with juvenile prisoners in New Zealand. When Kiet was 13 years old his dad Rich suggested staying with him in Australia for a couple of month, if he was happy to do so. Then Kiet decided to stay with Richard from age 13 to 19 in Australia. Rich said he used to sign sick notes so Kiet could go surfing. Jokingly Rich said "when Kiet could forge his signature, There was hope for the boy." Rich believes school is important, but you must teach children love first, this is the most important teaching. I asked Rich, how he deals with the sudden death of his son now.
“The first ten days were the hardest, I suffered intense grief, but I always knew, however bad the pain was, I had to pick myself up and move on. I focused on the love we had for each other and anytime I got really down this love would lift me up. The body dies but love never dies. This is the best medicine to get over any hardship. I believe we can concentrate on love rather than grief and pain. The world needs love more than anything else. If we give back the love we receive, this will actually become a better world.”
I asked Rich “How do you deal with the daily intense pain in your body and the mental pain of losing your son?” Rich answer “I have to do three of four hours meditation, Yoga and Chi Kung every day. Sometimes I am listening to the Beach Boys, sometimes to the composer Bach. I lie on the beach and visualize being under a cleansing waterfall. When negative things come up in my life, I just visualize a smile instead of letting them take me down. For me with the body mind it is in a sense like with maintaining a machine, in each situation we have to take good care and do what helps us and the situation. I believe, we have to accept situations and people as they are."
One time my stomach was in flame so bad at it make me crazy. At times I can't do any yoga or chi Kung, I'm pain in back. Sciatica nerve is so bad because I can't do any for it because of my stomach. Rose has to message me every day. I feel so bad for her. This had been going on now for six months. I won't know for few more days what the problem is. I know its yeast or the medicine I been take it all this year. It could be ulcer. If I didn't have Rose I could make it. I would go crazy by now. At time I hear Kiet telling me ''You'll be o.k.'' I really miss him and I wait for the window to be open up all the way.